Russian, Serbian and Coptic Orthodox funerals in Australia: rites, customs and what to expect

Orthodox Christian funerals begin from one non-negotiable belief: the body will rise again. Because of this, the body is treated as a temple of the Holy Spirit. Cremation is forbidden. The casket stays open. The body faces east, toward the direction from which Christ is expected to return.

Russian Orthodox, Serbian Orthodox, and Coptic Orthodox communities each follow distinct funeral customs drawn from their own liturgical traditions, cultural practices, and histories. All three operate parishes in every major Australian city.

The Australia and New Zealand Diocese of the Russian Orthodox Church Outside of Russia publishes guidance for Russian Orthodox families arranging funerals.

Shared Orthodox funeral elements

Every Orthodox funeral follows a recognisable pattern.

Trisagion (vigil). On the evening before the funeral, the priest leads a prayer service at the family home or at the church. The congregation repeats the Trisagion ("Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us"). Candles are lit, and family and community gather around the open casket.

Open casket. The casket stays open throughout the church service. The family places an icon on the chest of the deceased, typically of Christ or the patron saint. Mourners approach the casket to pay their respects, often kissing the icon or the forehead of the deceased. The casket is closed just before the procession to the cemetery.

Church service. The priest conducts the full funeral service with chanting, scripture readings, and prayers for the repose of the soul. The service is sung, not spoken. Russian Orthodox services run approximately one to two hours. Serbian and Coptic services may differ in length.

Burial. The body is buried facing east. The priest pours a mixture of wine and oil over the lowered coffin. The priest and family members cast earth onto the casket. A cross marks the grave.

Cremation prohibition. All Orthodox traditions strictly forbid cremation. The body must be buried whole. Family preference or financial considerations do not override this rule. Funeral directors working with Orthodox families should know that cremation is not an option under any circumstances.

Russian Orthodox customs

Russian Orthodox funeral rites follow the liturgical traditions of the Russian Church. The Panikhida, a memorial prayer service for the departed, sits at the heart of these rites. It is shorter than a full funeral service and can be held at multiple points: on the day of death, before the funeral, and at each prescribed memorial interval.

Kollyva (boiled wheat mixed with honey, nuts, and dried fruit) is prepared and blessed during the memorial service. It symbolises the resurrection: the grain dies in the earth and rises again as a new plant. Mourners receive kollyva after the service.

The memorial cycle follows a fixed schedule:

Russian Orthodox families traditionally wore black mourning attire for a full year or longer. In Australia, wearing black for approximately six weeks is the accepted norm, adapted to Australian social expectations.

Serbian Orthodox customs

Serbian Orthodox funerals include elements specific to Serbian cultural tradition, particularly the connection between funeral customs and the Slava, the family's patron saint day.

The funeral service follows the standard Orthodox structure (Trisagion, open casket, church service, burial facing east). After the burial, the family hosts a post-funeral meal called the Daca for all mourners. The Daca is a substantial gathering with food, drink, and remembrance of the deceased.

Zadusnice (cemetery visits) mark another important Serbian practice. The family visits the grave at regular intervals, bringing food, flowers, and candles. These visits fall on specific dates in the church calendar (typically three Saturdays per year designated as "Soul Saturdays") and on memorial anniversaries.

The Slava is unique to Serbian Orthodoxy: the annual celebration of the family's patron saint. When a family member dies, the Slava and mourning customs overlap. The family offers koljivo (boiled wheat, the Serbian equivalent of the Russian kollyva) for the souls of deceased members during the Slava celebration. The priest blesses the koljivo, and the Slava meal includes prayers for the departed.

Serbian memorial services follow the same calendar as Russian Orthodox: 3rd, 9th, and 40th days, then at 3, 6, 9, and 12 months, and yearly.

Coptic Orthodox customs

Coptic Orthodox Christians (predominantly Egyptian in origin) follow funeral rites within the Coptic liturgical tradition. Australia's Coptic community has grown substantially, with churches in Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane and other cities.

Coptic funerals follow the broader Orthodox structure: open casket, church service with chanting and prayers, and burial facing east. The priest conducts the service in Coptic (a descendant of ancient Egyptian), Arabic, and English.

For 40 days after the death, the family receives visitors, the community offers prayers daily, and practical and emotional support flows from the parish. The 40th-day memorial brings the family and community together for a church service and gathering.

Coptic Orthodox families hold strictly to the prohibition on cremation. Secular music and non-liturgical elements are not permitted during the funeral service.

Russian vs Serbian vs Coptic: key differences

Common misconceptions

Several assumptions that non-Orthodox guests bring to Orthodox funerals are wrong.

"The family can choose cremation if it is cheaper." No. Cremation is prohibited regardless of cost. An Orthodox church will not conduct funeral rites for a person who is to be cremated.

"The casket can be closed during the church service." In most Orthodox traditions, the open casket is standard during the church service. Closing it early is not the norm, though specific circumstances (such as the condition of the body) may require it.

"Secular songs or personal eulogies are part of the service." Orthodox funeral services are liturgical. The church prescribes the content. Secular music, personal speeches, and non-religious readings do not belong in the church service. A separate gathering or wake after the burial may include personal remembrances.

What to expect if you are attending

Orthodox funerals welcome non-Orthodox guests. Dress conservatively in dark colours (black is standard). Women may be asked to cover their heads in some parishes; bring a scarf to be safe.

Stand when the congregation stands. Orthodox church services involve a lot of standing, and seating may be limited. You do not need to cross yourself, venerate icons, or join in the prayers if you are not Orthodox. Observe respectfully.

When approaching the open casket, you may bow or pause respectfully. You are not required to kiss the icon or the deceased. Follow the lead of the people in front of you.

After the burial, the family typically hosts a meal. Attending the meal is considered respectful and supportive.

Terminology glossary

Related information

• Greek Orthodox funerals in Australia
• How much does a funeral cost in Australia?
• Back to: Australian funeral traditions

Frequently asked questions

Is cremation permitted in Orthodox Christianity?

No. Cremation is strictly forbidden across all Orthodox traditions. The body must be buried intact, facing east.

Why is the casket open?

The open casket allows mourners to pay final respects by viewing the deceased and kissing the icon placed on the chest. It remains open throughout the church service.

What is the 40th-day memorial?

On the 40th day after death, the soul is believed to face final judgement. The priest holds a memorial service at the church, and the family gathers with community.

How long do you wear black?

Traditionally a year or longer. In Australia, approximately six weeks of wearing black mourning attire is commonly accepted.

What is koljivo?

Boiled wheat mixed with honey, nuts, and dried fruit, blessed during the memorial service. It symbolises resurrection: the grain dies and rises again.